Failing With Flair: Why Your Epic Fails Might Just Be Your Secret Weapon to Social Success
You tried too hard and lost. The preparation was there but the performance was bad. You froze, you choked, you bombed. It was not well received. You need to just curl up in a ball. Forget it. Give up. I remember after I missed a hat pop during dance rehearsal the choreographer yelled, “Hey Amy! If you can’t get that dance move down by now you should go home and kill yourself!” I was eighteen. I didn’t. Did I go in the bathroom and cry for awhile after rehearsal? Absolutely. Did I go back to rehearsal later and just forget it never happened? Of course. First of all, I barely knew the chain smoking choreographer and second of all, I was actually surprised he even knew my name. I also knew dancing wasn’t exactly my forte. It also wasn’t the first time I had been publicly humiliated. My old man was a pro at making scenes in restaurants.
I’m not gonna lie, some failures are harder to get back up from than others. I don’t think I ever recovered from a bit of “advice” I received from a professor in college I admired. He confirmed my deepest darkest fears. I was not a good singer and I was probably “going to get married anyway” so I didn’t need to worry about a “career”. So I have like zero value. Nice huh? That was fun. But that was different. That was behind closed doors and that was just my…
